C is for cancer, and C is also for community, and this is the best part of dealing with cancer, as your community helps you get through the gruelling process.
I can’t stop saying thank you to all those who have poured into me in so many ways. I appreciate and love you all.
Last year went so fast, and it was like a blur. In November 2024, I found a lump on my right breast, and I went to the Trinidad and Tobago Cancer Society in December of 2024, where I was diagnosed with breast cancer two days before Christmas.
I underwent a double mastectomy in March, the next year and had a second surgery in May, as the cancer had spread to my lymph nodes under my right arm, so that changed my cancer stage 1 diagnosis to stage 3c now. The emotional breakdowns, doctor visits, the different scans, eight rounds of chemotherapy and now 15 rounds of radiation every day, plus medication for the next ten years to help keep cancer at bay. It has been a crushing journey.
But despite it all, I am still grateful.
I’m thankful to God for ensuring I reached this far.
Cancer has surely changed my life. The changes aren’t just the physical changes, like my decision to shave my head bald before my first chemotherapy session; I removed both of my breasts (double mastectomy), not that I had to, but I did it for my peace of mind. I have no plans of having reconstruction done (my personal preference). I have also had 23 lymph nodes removed, which means I’m limited in what I can do with my right arm. Now, if I do something as simple as lifting a bag, sweeping or even cooking, it can lead to my arm swelling.
Mentally, I am no longer the same. I keep wondering what if something is hiding.
Emotionally, I grieve and am still grieving the loss of the old Nicole. I am also struggling with the chemicals being used to fight cancer in my body, the brain fog, the tiredness, loss of appetite, and weight gain.
But a line from rapper Kendrick Lamar’s Euphoria, which was a diss to rapper Drake, asks, “Have you ever played, have you ever? Ok, let’s play, have you ever watch your enemy down with a poke face?” That’s how I felt, I was “dissing” cancer, as I entered the gayelle to fight for my life!
But as I said before, C is for community, and my community is too many to name.
But, I’m thankful for all the support, the hugs and kisses, the staff from the Cancer Society, St James Medical Complex for chemotherapy and now the Cancer Centre of the Caribbean for radiation. Let me tell you, they are all Top Tier. I have been given the best treatment at every stage of this journey.
Moving forward, I’m just learning this new version of me, who is ever thankful that I’m here a year later after being diagnosed.
Here’s to many, many more years.
