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Brother at slain teacher’s funeral- Envy, hate can lead to murder
Instead of celebrating her 49th birthday tomorrow, Dian Paladee was cremated yesterday. Paladee, who was a teacher at El Dorado South Hindu School, was shot and killed by her ex-husband, Sanjeev Rambarran, last Thursday before he turned the gun on himself at his St Augustine home. The funeral service was held at her family’s Tunapuna home on Prescott Lane, Pasea Main Road. Hundreds of people showed up to the closed-casket service, many bearing red and yellow roses.
During the service, her eldest brother and CEO of Pennywise Dalvi Paladee said T&T was crying over the escalation in crime since the start of the new year, asking where were the leaders in the midst of the country’s disorder. “And where are our leaders? Where were they?” he asked. The murder toll for the year stood at 23 up to yesterday.
“No compassion. Where is the compassion in our leaders? It has struck the chord of every single human in our country, and it seems that our leaders have lost their sight of the very reason they are our leaders, to love us.” He also commented on the lack of compassion shown specifically to the Paladee family in light of the incident. Congress of the People (COP) leader Prakash Ramadhar was present and offered his condolences to the family.
“I have come today to share in your grief...I ask myself why is it such a tragedy could befall such wonderful exemplars of what a family should be.” He said such an incident has happened before and it could happen again, and what Dian’s life taught us was to be vigilant of this possibility. “Let this be a lesson, that each and everyone one of us look out for your neighbour, for your friend,” Ramadhar said. He told the family no one else understood their grief.
“The children in particular, they have not lost just their mother but their father in the most horrible circumstances.” One guest pundit spoke out against people trying to find happiness at the cost of others. “That type of happiness is short-lived.” He said the best type of happiness did not depend on family, friends or money, but finding it within oneself.
“The husband must not depend on the wife to be happy and contented. The wife must not depend on the husband...We must not depend on each other, we must only love each other, respect each other.” He prayed for Dian’s two children, Sangeeta and Sanjay Rambarran, left without parents after Thursday’s murder/suicide. Rambarran’s funeral service took place on Saturday in San Fernando. “It takes great people to love these two children the way their mother and father would have loved them,” he said.
Dian’s mother, Shanti Paladee, sat next to her daughter’s coffin, and was fanned and consoled by her grandchildren as she cried during the service. Dian’s daughter, Sangeeta, delivered the eulogy and described her mother as warm, loving and loved by all who knew her. “Anyone who knew my mom, knows her smile. No matter what, it was always genuine...She was always there no matter what.” She joked that her mother loved to take photos, as much as she loved to pose for them as well.
Dalvi described the incident as a tragedy, but said there was merit in it still, as everyone should learn how not to hate or envy one another. “Simple things like envy and hate can cause man to commit murder.” He called on his family and attendees to give their love to people who did not deserve it, including Dian’s ex-husband Sanjeev. Dalvi said that was the kind of compassionate love Dian possessed.
“We remind people, all of you who may hate this guy, you send love to him, wherever he is...If you all really love Miss Dian, those of you who say you know what love is, you send love to him, then her life would have made sense,” Dalvi said. After the funeral service hundreds gathered at the Caroni Cremation Site where Dian’s body was cremated. All branches of Pennywise were closed yesterday.