Many are con­cerned about the sin­gle woman. The ed­u­cat­ed, sin­gle woman in par­tic­u­lar, is pitied, be­cause of her plight. She is con­front­ed with a co­nun­drum. She has prob­a­bly passed the age of thir­ty, does not have a man and there are no men who are in­ter­est­ed in dat­ing her.Her on­ly prospects are ei­ther mar­ried or gay. The sin­gle men in her world who could be prospects for mar­riage are look­ing for younger, more beau­ti­ful, more fer­tile, sub­mis­sive women.They say the high­er a woman goes ed­u­ca­tion­al­ly the hard­er it is for her to find a man. This might be a con­se­quence of the re­al­i­ty that there are more women than men pur­su­ing post-grad­u­ate pro­grams. Even if she finds a man en­rolled in a mas­ters or PhD Pro­gram, he is ei­ther mar­ried or gay. If she de­cides to date a man who is not as ed­u­cat­ed as she is (or not ed­u­cat­ed at all) he is ei­ther mar­ried, gay, strug­gles with per­son­al fi­nances, in­se­cu­ri­ties and self es­teem, is sex­u­al­ly promis­cu­ous or a "play­er," ex­treme­ly pos­ses­sive and ter­ri­to­r­i­al or show­ers once a week.

At the same time, sta­tis­tics show that there are just not enough men on the plan­et to mar­ry the large num­ber of women who are pray­ing, spend­ing many hours on in­ter­net dat­ing sites, di­et­ing, ex­er­cis­ing, and flirt­ing, with the hope of find­ing a man. The sin­gle woman has a big prob­lem. What could be the so­lu­tion to this prob­lem, you might ask? The an­swer may be just as com­pli­cat­ed as the prob­lem.Sin­gle women may need to be­gin to re­vis­it and re-con­cep­tu­alise their per­cep­tion of sin­gle­hood, or what it means to have or not have a part­ner. Many women have sub­merged in­to de­pres­sion or have de­vel­oped very low self es­teems be­cause they are in­ca­pable of meet­ing so­ci­etal ex­pec­ta­tions which dic­tate that the woman must mar­ry a man and con­ceive chil­dren. I say, what­ev­er your mar­i­tal sta­tus may be; love your­self, and live life to the fullest!

Fay White