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Sunday, July 27, 2025

Balance For Better: How To Bring Balance To Your Life

by

Zakiya-Tuere Savary & The XX Team
2330 days ago
20190310

Bal­ance: a state of equi­lib­ri­um or equipoise.

With the theme for In­ter­na­tion­al Women’s Day 2019 be­ing “Bal­ance for Bet­ter”, it leaves me to ques­tion what does bal­ance for us women re­al­ly mean. While we’re ask­ing for bal­ance in so­ci­ety, we too need to find bal­ance in our own lives. When we con­sid­er all as­pects of life, are we bal­anc­ing for bet­ter or are we con­stant­ly jug­gling work, play and every­thing in be­tween? Are we liv­ing proac­tive­ly or re­ac­tive­ly fire­fight­ing? I’m sure we’ve all an­swered the lat­ter at some point, but each day is a new op­por­tu­ni­ty for us to ‘bal­ance the scales’, so to speak. Whether it be emo­tion­al­ly, phys­i­cal­ly or men­tal­ly, we all have own­er­ship of the sto­ry we want to write for our lives. It is im­por­tant to keep in mind, how­ev­er, that choos­ing your­self is NEV­ER self­ish, for as the say­ing goes ‘you can’t pour from an emp­ty cup’. Let’s work on keep­ing those cups abun­dant­ly filled, over­flow­ing even, to show up and be our best selves every day- a self that you and oth­ers would for­ev­er be thank­ful for.

Bal­ance your feels—It’s of­ten eas­i­er to find bal­ance with phys­i­cal things out­side of our­selves, but qui­et­ing the noise with­in is some­times proven dif­fi­cult. One take on this is the bal­ance be­tween soul and ego. From a young age, we are taught that be­ing con­ceit­ed on­ly gets us so far for so long, but some­times we are not taught what the flip side of be­ing full of one­self is. There is the school of thought that sug­gests since we are a soul with a body, it should be nur­tured more care­ful­ly as it is eter­nal. Tak­ing care of your soul com­pris­es as­pects like not tak­ing things per­son­al­ly be­cause the world doesn’t re­volve around you and us­ing your words to build in­stead of de­stroy—whether it be your­self or an­oth­er. The more you prac­tice pos­i­tiv­i­ty, the less neg­a­tive self-talk can en­ter your space. We have to re­mem­ber that the word ‘no’ should not be seen as neg­a­tive for it can of­ten­times save you from overex­tend­ing your­self which ul­ti­mate­ly leads to emo­tion­al burnout any­way. If a per­son is up­set when you po­lite­ly de­cline to pro­tect your en­er­gy it is their cross to car­ry be­cause you must know thy­self. We should al­so con­cen­trate on if and how their be­hav­iour may im­pact us since we are on­ly in con­trol of our re­ac­tion and noth­ing else. Harp­ing on what an­oth­er does proves both fu­tile and emo­tion­al­ly drain­ing. In­stead, ask your­self if get­ting more in­for­ma­tion would pos­i­tive­ly af­fect you and if not, know­ing the an­swer isn’t im­por­tant. Liv­ing your best life usu­al­ly in­volves be­ing emo­tion­al­ly in­tel­li­gent which in­cludes be­ing self aware. The more we keep this in check is the more bal­anced we will be, just ask Lil Du­val!

Bal­ance those weights—No one can ever em­pha­sise just how im­por­tant phys­i­cal ac­tiv­i­ty is to your well­be­ing. This, cou­pled with eat­ing well, makes you feel as if you can con­quer the world girl! Whether it be danc­ing, swim­ming or yo­ga- just get out there and do…some­thing! Your fu­ture self will thank you. No one says you have to be the next Ser­e­na, but at least 30 min­utes of mod­er­ate ex­er­cise a day can re­al­ly keep the stress away! Lest we for­get that a gym body alone does not make us healthy- af­ter­all we can’t out-gym a fried chick­en and ‘Red So­lo’ di­et. While we can en­joy life’s sweet treats from time to time, mod­er­a­tion is es­sen­tial. We’re of­fi­cial­ly in the sea­son, for some, where giv­ing up a beloved food is com­mon. How­ev­er, an­oth­er take on this prac­tice is to fos­ter new and im­proved eat­ing habits that ba­si­cal­ly can­cel out the not so good ones any­way. For forty days, why not vow to have at least three serv­ings of fruit a day if you don’t usu­al­ly do that.

Bal­ance the beat up—It is okay to not be okay. We are al­ready su­per women in our own right. There is no need to prove this to any­one else; for once we live in love all else falls in­to place. How­ev­er, life hap­pens and it is im­per­a­tive to know our­selves well enough to re­alise when we need help. Some­times your best friend or even a ther­a­pist can act as a great sound board to get your frus­tra­tions out when jour­nal­ing doesn’t quite do the trick. Choose this per­son wise­ly though as there’s no need for the hot mess ex­press to have all your busi­ness out on the road in­stead of try­ing to help you. Nev­er be too hard on your­self (it’s a strug­gle some­times, am I right?!) Fig­ure out what may mat­ter five years from now and stress about that, but the is­sue that won’t have an im­pact next week?—is­sa no sis.

Know­ing what to bal­ance in­forms how to bal­ance. Al­though pri­or­i­ties dif­fer for all of us queens, mind, body and soul must re­main in­tact for a beau­ti­ful and fruit­ful life. Learn­ing to be re­silient when faced with ad­ver­si­ty proves to be both ben­e­fi­cial and in­spir­ing. Let’s lift each oth­er up be­cause that way we rise any­way. And re­mem­ber, bal­ance is key.

A firm be­liev­er in meet­ing you where you are for your health and well­ness goals, Za­kiya-Tuere Savary is a bud­ding health ed­u­ca­tor with a pas­sion for dance; ful­fill­ing her pur­pose one health pro­mot­ing tip at a time. Fol­low her on IG @tueretalks


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