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Monday, June 23, 2025

Fathers by choice: The men who raise forgotten boys

by

Ryan Bachoo
8 days ago
20250615

Lead Ed­i­tor-News­gath­er­ing

ryan.ba­choo@cnc3.co.tt

On a Sat­ur­day evening, a group of boys fol­lows Al­win Hunte down Nel­son Street to­ward the Cathe­dral of the Im­mac­u­late Con­cep­tion. These young men, res­i­dents of the Cre­do Home for Boys—who are with­out par­ents, aban­doned, or placed un­der the care of the Chil­dren’s Au­thor­i­ty—are head­ed to evening Mass. They set­tle qui­et­ly in the front pews, their eyes fixed on the al­tar, await­ing the start of the ser­vice.

Hunte and Makem­ba Whit­ley, su­per­vi­sors and care­tak­ers at the home, serve as steady fa­ther fig­ures to these boys, many of whom come from trou­bled, frag­ile back­grounds and vul­ner­a­ble homes. For these young men, Hunte and Whit­ley of­fer more than guid­ance—they of­fer a sense of be­long­ing and hope.

Whit­ley ex­plained, “It is a re­al­ly huge task be­cause every­thing that you try to im­part to the young men, you have to mod­el it your­self be­cause it is easy to say some­thing to the young men, but when you mod­el it, it comes across even greater for them.”

He has been work­ing with the Cre­do Home for the last five years, while Hunte has been at the in­sti­tu­tion for 28 years.

Both men have found mean­ing in what they do–each in his own way. Hunte said, “I feel very proud when I see them take up that role and be­come de­cent young men and fa­thers in so­ci­ety to­day. That is my great­est achieve­ment and suc­cess when I see the young men do­ing very well with their lives. That gives us a sense of joy that we have done some­thing.”

For Whit­ley, who holds a de­gree in psy­chol­o­gy and a mas­ter’s in crim­i­nol­o­gy and crim­i­nal jus­tice, work­ing at the Cre­do Home has al­lowed him to put the­o­ry in­to prac­tice.

He ex­plained, “I was re­al­ly drawn to it when I came to the re­al­i­sa­tion that you could ac­tu­al­ly now put those the­o­ries I learnt in school in­to prac­tice, so I think what is re­al­ly im­por­tant for me is pre­sent­ing these boys with life ex­am­ples and re­al­ly see­ing the ap­plic­a­bil­i­ty of all these the­o­ries that we’re go­ing to learn.

“Com­pared to when you sit in these class­es, you’re now ac­tu­al­ly on the ground deal­ing with these boys, help­ing them to see the dif­fer­ences be­tween a life of crime ver­sus a pro-so­cial lifestyle. Deal­ing with the boys, I re­al­ly like to see when it comes to fruition.”

Hunte is all too fa­mil­iar with the chal­lenges these boys have faced in the com­mu­ni­ties they once lived in and their house­holds be­fore they ar­rived at Cre­do Home.

He, too, grew up in a “rough area”, but he cred­its his par­ents for be­ing great ex­am­ples. As such, he has been able to im­part knowl­edge to the boys he now over­looks.

Hunte ex­plained, “My par­ents nev­er told us one day that we can­not as­so­ciate with bad com­pa­ny. What my mom and my dad would say is, ‘Let them come home; we will show them a dif­fer­ence.’ They came to our yard. Some of them passed on, some of them made jail, but some are still alive and found them­selves be­ing a part of our house­hold by get­ting a dif­fer­ent train­ing to see how we lived. They saw how my par­ents cared, and they want­ed to be a part of that.”

Hunte has be­come pas­sion­ate about help­ing young men re­verse the course of their lives and pick them­selves up af­ter fam­i­ly break­downs.

“I think this is my call­ing. I don’t think we can be paid enough for the things we do. I will do it for free. I will see young peo­ple in the com­mu­ni­ty of Nel­son Street where our pro­gramme is sit­u­at­ed or Dun­can Street, and I will talk to young peo­ple and give them good ad­vice. I will do it for free,” he said.

The Cre­do Home is not with­out its chal­lenges. Young boys com­ing from dif­fer­ent back­grounds are forced to live with each oth­er ac­cord­ing to the let­ter of the law.

Hunte said, “They are a bunch of young men who you re­al­ly have to chan­nel to know how to live with each oth­er be­cause, as young men, they will al­ways be in one an­oth­er’s faces and find them­selves in a lot of prob­lems, and we have to dis­ci­pline them. We’re forced to look at how we are deal­ing with this.”

Con­sid­er­ing the chal­lenges of dis­ci­pline and whether the boys tru­ly de­served pun­ish­ment, Hunte asked, “Is it that we have to give them a con­se­quence for some­thing that they did?”

Nev­er­the­less, Hunte and Whit­ley un­der­stand the boys they are deal­ing with and the dif­fi­cult hand life dealt them at an ear­ly age.

Whit­ley added, “I try to im­part to them that it is not your al­ti­tude but the at­ti­tude that de­ter­mines where you are in life. A lot of times they would come with dif­fer­ent chal­lenges based on prob­a­bly the trau­ma that they would have had, and I think we re­al­ly help them ad­just eas­i­ly by chang­ing their at­ti­tude and see­ing the bless­ings of the sit­u­a­tion.”

Al­though Whit­ley and Hunte work with these young men through­out most of their teenage years, once they turn 18, they must face the world on their own. Both men agree that this tran­si­tion is far from easy for the boys.

Whit­ley ex­plained, “I think in terms of chal­lenges, I would say how the sys­tem is set up, at the age of 18, the boys will no longer be un­der the Cre­do Home. I think it’s just a mat­ter of en­sur­ing that there’s a lev­el of con­ti­nu­ity be­cause, frankly, some­times, when you think of the age of 18, you may not get your ap­proach to adult­hood. I wish there was some tran­si­tion­al home or place for them that they could have gone to.”

This sit­u­a­tion can take a men­tal and phys­i­cal toll on Whit­ley and Hunte, but they re­main de­ter­mined to help the boys placed in their care at the Cre­do Home be­come the best young men they can be.

Hunte re­called, “I still have young men who I worked with from years ago who are in their 40s, and they still call me at Christ­mas time and Fa­ther’s Day. When they in­tro­duce me to their friends, they say, ‘This is my fa­ther.’ They in­tro­duce me to their wife and their chil­dren as their fa­ther.”

For Hunte and Whit­ley, they are more than care­tak­ers and su­per­vi­sors; they are fa­ther fig­ures to young men who would oth­er­wise be for­got­ten.


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